Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore married in 2005; at this time, Kutcher was about 15 years Moore’s junior. With the union, Kutcher became the stepfather to three children—age twelve, ten, and eight.
Moore and Kutcher got divorced in 2013, which Kutcher claims made him feel like a failure. In her memoir, Moore shared that she suffered from drinking issues during the marriage, which could have contributed to the divorce. However, the divorce was finalized after news of Kutcher’s infidelity and the couple’s issues with IVF.
Divorce can leave people feeling like a complete failure, but this doesn't have to be the case. A divorce is often an emotionally and financially draining process, which can lead to feelings of regret and inadequacy. Despite these emotions, it is important to remember that getting a divorce does not mean you have failed in any way; it simply indicates that two people decided they were better off apart than together.
Everyone's situation is different and sometimes it's best for both parties to part ways amicably instead of continuing on with a relationship that isn't working out. Reaching the decision to get a divorce may take some strength and courage, but it doesn't mean you are a failure - it means you've made the right choice for yourself.
Infertility and Child Loss as Contributory Factors for Divorce
Experiencing infertility or child loss can be heartbreaking and overwhelming. For many couples, these experiences can be the source of marital strain – leading to divorce. In discussing the divorce in a recent interview, Kutcher said that: “Losing a kid that you think you’re going to have, and that close to think you’re going to have a kid, is really, really painful. Everyone deals with that in different ways.” In this blog post, we’ll discuss how infertility and child loss contribute to divorce.
The Impact of Infertility on Marriages
Infertility affects millions of couples in the US, and it can have a huge impact on marriages. The inability to conceive or carry a pregnancy to term can lead to feelings of guilt, inadequacy, depression, grief and resentment– all of which can cause conflict between spouses.
In some cases, one partner may blame the other for their infertility issues, leading to even more tensions within the relationship. If left unresolved, this strife can eventually lead to divorce.
Furthermore, infertility treatments are expensive and time-consuming and they often require a great deal of emotional energy from both partners. This process is often draining on couples, making them feel overwhelmed and unable to cope with other aspects of their lives together such as financial issues or communication problems.
Child Loss & Divorce
Losing a child is one of the most difficult experiences that any couple could go through – both emotionally and physically – and it can take an immense toll on marriages. Grief is an individual experience that differs from person-to-person.
Some people find comfort in going through the grieving process together while others would rather grieve separately; either way there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Unfortunately, some couples may drift apart because of their grief. Seeking counseling or therapy with your partner, as well as seeking support from friends or family, can help couples struggling with their relationship and/or grief after the loss of a child.
Cairns Law Offices offers compassionate and affordable divorce services. We can help you have an amicable divorce and file an uncontested, no-fault divorce. Call (888) 863-9115 or reach out online today.
