If you plan to file for an uncontested divorce, you have to agree on everything, including your parenting plan, which outlines how you will share physical custody. Below, we outline tips concerning how you can negotiate with your partner to reach a fair arrangement.
Understand Scheduling Options
Before you can even negotiate your parenting plan, you should be aware of how you can divide parenting time. Take some time to research and understand different co-parenting plans with consideration to whether you want to divide time 50/50, 60/40, or 70/30 based on your work schedules, the current division of parenting responsibilities, and your child’s needs.
Consider What Provisions You May Include
Parenting plan provisions provide further clarification on how you make decisions, communicate, handle emergencies, and approach other things that can arise when co-parenting. For example, you may have strong preferences concerning how you communicate with one another and how your co-parent facilitates communication between you and your child when they are at your co-parent’s house. So, you may include provisions that say you have to communicate via a co-parenting app for documentation purposes and that co-parents have to facilitate FaceTime calls between the other parent and child during overnight visits.
Prepare Visuals
Visual representations of a parenting time arrangement can significantly enhance the negotiation process. By providing a clear and concise overview of the proposed schedule, parents can more easily understand and discuss potential changes or modifications. Visual aids, such as calendars or flowcharts, can help to identify potential conflicts or inconsistencies, allowing for proactive problem-solving. Additionally, visuals can make complex information more accessible, making it easier for parents to discuss and agree upon terms without feeling overwhelmed.
Keep the Focus on Your Child’s Needs
The primary goal of any parenting plan should be to protect and promote the best interests of the children. This involves considering factors such as their age, emotional needs, and preferences. Avoid making decisions based on personal animosity or resentment. Instead, focus on creating a plan that fosters a positive and supportive environment for the children.
Take Turns Speaking & Listening
When parents engage in respectful dialogue, it allows each person to express their thoughts, concerns and needs without being interrupted or dismissed. This creates a safe and supportive environment where both parents feel heard and valued. This approach also allows you to identify areas of common ground and potential solutions and avoid miscommunications (when actively listening).
Be Open to Compromise
Effective communication is essential for reaching a mutually agreeable parenting plan. Be open-minded and willing to compromise on various aspects of the arrangement. Avoid making assumptions or jumping to conclusions. Instead, actively listen to each other's concerns and perspectives.
Let Us Help Prepare Your Custody Arrangement
While we do not offer counsel to those involved in custody disputes, Cairns Law Offices can help couples who wish to file an uncontested agreement. We offer straightforward and affordable online services.
Contact our offices at (888) 863-9115 to request a free consultation.
